We said goodbye – again.

I’ve just come home from the grave site service of an interesting man. He is a cousin of my ex-husband, and someone I did not know very well. In fact, I’ve only met him twice. The last time I saw him was many years ago, in a setting much like today’s. Randy had led a full life of ups and downs and many of the downs were pretty down. He had overcome more obstacles than I can imagine going through and at one point in his life vowed to turn it around. He went through a lot to make that turn and I think, made it brilliantly.

That setting of so long ago was in a hospital in Salt Lake City. Randy had suffered from some kind of brain aneurysm rupture and was on life support. The family had made the difficult decision to take him off life support and then gathered together in his ICU room to say goodbye. I am honored to have been present. Another cousin gave him a blessing telling him it was okay to move on, we had his back, his child and parents would be cared for, we loved him and would see him on the other side. At the very end of the blessing, Randy woke up and tried to speak. The doctors were called in, we were shooed out of the room and many long minutes later we were informed that taking Randy off life support was no longer an appropriate decision. He recovered. From something people aren’t supposed to be able to recover from. He was however still sick from other things. He went on to live a few more years, grow even stronger in the gospel, long enough to instill in his son a much needed example and did so through more pain and illness than I can imagine. He was an inspiration to all who knew him and to all, like me, who knew of him. He passed away last week and will be missed.

And so, we gathered again today. Again I was honored to be present and again we said goodbye. My heart goes out to those who were close to him and I wish them peace and comfort.

Thank you, Randy Adkins, for your inspiration. God Speed.

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